Once again, we return to my personal history from before the blog.
Timeline: 1985
-1991
I put off writing this when it was due last Saturday,
as I was having a little trouble getting started with these years. We are past a lot of the fun firsts…
This time frame was more about work than sex. We were getting ourselves established, but
also needed to find additional venues to use our talents. And we were very successful with that. We still worked together, a lot. Rob was beginning to work at other places a
little more often than I was, for as resident director, I stayed on mostly at
the dinner theatre until it was sold in the summer of 1985.
We found nine months of work together up at the
theatre where Rob had done his first summer gigs. I was again resident director and occasional
actor. Living in a bigger city, made me
more conscious on being on the prowl for men.
It was a small city—but not a village like where we’d been.
Driving home from the grocery store, I drove down to the
waterfront. Lake Huron looked vast and
beautiful. There was an old pier here in
the downtown area. And cars were circling. Round and round. I’d found the gay cruising
ground without trying.
Of course, I went back. At night.
Even more cars. But I was too petrified
of the cops to do anything. I watched
men disappear behind the old pier but wouldn’t go there myself. I watched and waited for them to come back to
their cars. Sometimes 20 minutes. More often less than seven.
But it wasn’t just the cops that had me scared. We still knew so little about AIDS in late
1985 and early 1986. Knowing so many gay
men in the theatre, we’d hear through the grapevine that one was sick and no
longer working or another had died. In
the coming years, I likely knew a couple dozen men who we lost far too young. I waited to hear of one that I’d actually had
sex with—and that never happened…
*
The other big change in my life around this time was
that my brother and his partner had moved to a bedroom community in New Jersey
as my brother was now working in New York.
He was a buyer for a major retail firm and doing a lot of traveling. I missed the connection and the mentor
aspect. This was the 1980’s—I couldn’t just
drop him a text. Long distance took a
huge chunk out of my meagre paycheck. So
I mostly waited until he and his partner came home for Christmas…and we caught
up then. Sort of…
*
Rob and I were still mostly doing each other after some
late-night porn viewing. I loved sucking
him off. He came fast and a lot. He’d work on me, but even back then I took
forever to shoot. I had found edging—before
I knew the name.
I mentioned last time how Rob loved those blond,
big-dicked porn guys. I was all about
something new. We found the films of
Cadinot—and all those exotic men I’d never seen before, of every race and so
many uncut. (I still had not seen a
foreskin in the flesh!)
Rob and I had a game that if we were, say, driving to
the grocery store and saw a good-looking guy on the street we’d talk about him—and
what we’d like to do to him. Rob was
becoming rather indifferent to any man who didn’t look like me in 1978. He liked them tall, blond (you’d never know I
was blond now, but I was until I was 45!) and hung. I was pretty omnivorous. Age, body type, dick size didn’t matter. With each year I aged, Rob still loved me…but
was becoming more indifferent to me sexually…
1988. I got a
job, through a friend, down in Birmingham, Alabama. There was both a dinner theatre and another
that paid really good money. We moved our
base of operations south for nine months of the year, returning to Michigan,
each year, for a summer theatre gig. Birmingham
was a true city. And I found the
bookstores. Our evening jack and cum had
sort of disappeared by now. He was more
interested in his video game on the television and a scotch or three to unwind. I still watched porn in the bedroom—and was
usually asleep as he came to bed.
Birmingham had a couple of porn video stores. I told Rob I wanted to explore them—and he
was fine with it. I still wasn’t likely
to do anything much in this bigger city.
The one I liked had the oddest set up.
You picked out a video tape, paid your admission and went to the back
room. There were four booths in the room
but nothing like the traditional rooms and screens. The ‘booths’ were large plastic capsules that
were shaped like a hollow navy bean. Each
was a different color. If I’d paid for
the yellow pod, I knew to go there. You sat
inside of it on the far side, near one corner of the room and watched the
cassette you had chosen. I quickly
learned the four pods could swivel. If
you turned the contraption to the right, and the guy in the blue pod swiveled
left, you could see each other. Many men
saw, nodded and excused themselves to the lone restroom for a quick BJ. I didn’t do that. But I did pull out my cock and show it to anyone
who wanted to see it as I stroked.
*
In 1991, lightning struck. I was offered an almost fulltime job running
a theatre in Michigan. I accepted. It meant Rob would job out most of the year
all around the country, and I would be working by myself.
I was going to be 35 that year. I looked at myself in the mirror. I knew I needed to start playing with other
men. I was too old now, sexually for
Rob, and was barely going to see him. I
knew enough about condoms at this point to buy Magnums. I remember thinking this exact phrase: “I better get some fun in now as no one will
want me once I hit 40!”
That night, I ran it by Rob on a long-distance call. I could hear the shrug in his voice as he said
it sounded like a plan, provided the condoms happened. I hung up and planned a trip to Chicago that
coming weekend. My brother had mentioned
a place called Man’s Country…








